August 25, 2014 – 11:48AM
Aussie men, it’s time to man up. Photo: Getty Images
Being single has its challenges and despite living in a time with unprecedented ways to access and meet potential partners through a plethora of apps, websites and groups offering all kinds of matchmaking services.
This little Tinderella still enjoys meeting men the old-fashioned way. Preferring to scan left or right through a crowd of people, rather than using my thumb and phone.
The “2014 RSVP Date of the Nation Report”, findings may just hold a clue as to why so many single ladies are finding the old fashioned way mission impossible.
Thirty-six per cent of single Australian women surveyed rated the lack of opportunities and occasions to meet other singles as their biggest challenge when it comes to finding a serious relationship, followed by a severe lack of suitable talent in an appropriate age bracket.
Whereas the same amount of fellas, who have a bevy of beauties to pick from, actually cited the fear of rejection as their number one challenge when it comes to finding true love.
Really? What has happened to our quintessential Aussie bloke, tough as the outback with a ‘she’ll be right mate’ attitude? Has his modern day penchant for man-scaping and skinny jeans made him soft? Has he gone from gutsy to girly?
Fellas have you lost your link to the missing link, dating back to your prehistoric predecessors, to a time when you were hunters and gatherers? Do the single ladies of Australia need to start running round in loincloths feigning chase of a T-Rex to get your attention?
Newsflash… Women are human too and we don’t particularly like rejection either but life isn’t a Disney movie, so we can’t sit in our little ivory towers in the kingdom Singleness waiting for you lot to pluck up and sweep us off into happily ever-after.
Since when does the sole point of starting a conversation with a woman really have to teeter on the hypothetical of whether or not you will end up together forever? So what if you don’t get our number or we don’t ride off into the sunrise together, that’s not rejection, that’s life!
I’m tired of wearing the metaphorical pants ALL the time! The reality is; if you make a concerted effort to communicate with us, i.e. strike up a conversation, which does not include ‘nice rack’, ‘nice dress but it would look better on my floor’ or use us as a resting place to steady your balance as you hug your 15th beer… Chances are we will engage!
Of course you’ll get your occasional she-beast that could do with a lesson in decorum and politeness but quite frankly, gentlemen, the majority of us are normal, civil human beings open to a simple, “hello, how are you?”.
Don’t believe me, RSVP’s relationship expert and psychologist John Atkin agrees that for many single men, the dating process can be a daunting one, as they view it as an opportunity for possible failure and rejection.
“Men appear to be taking dating setbacks too personally, especially when compared to women”, says Atkin, his professional advice, “Guys need to have more fun, and remember that dating is a process of elimination not rejection.”
Draw some inspiration from your European counterparts, take a page out of their book of amore, for them rejection is a form of foreplay, not a reason to sulk in the corner and lick your wounds. Yeah so it sucks when you approach someone you fancy and you cop the big NO, but hey nothing ventured, nothing gained, right?
So this single lady on behalf of all the single ladies simply has this to say… Single men of Australia, it’s been duly noted that you’re a little more sensitive than we may have thought, so we promise to make more of an effort not to scare you off, however you are on notice. You might want to man up or you might just miss out
Source : The Sydney Morning Herald